[Through the eyes of a child] If you put your mind into it, you can do anything you want

Recently, my six-year-old daughter told me while being coaxed to practice more, "I know... if you put your mind into it, you can do anything... "

Startled by this sudden surge of wisdom, I was quick to reply back, wide eyed and all... "Where did you learn that?"

And guess... her answer both surprised and soothed me at the same time.

"From the TV"

Well well well...

I remembered struggling to decide when she was a newborn whether we can let her watch TV. That's after extensive research that mostly uncover the evil side of the magic box.

Finally, I myself was lured into the temptation of adorable characters (anyway... hubby and I watched Hi-5 during our exam study in university... happily commenting all through about the comical aspect of the bunch. I wonder whether it's karma that bring our firstborn into loving the Nathan-Kathleen-Kellie-Charli-Tim combo so much in the first 18 months of her life).

So for us, TV is OK, as long as it comes from DVD/VCD. I am still a scared of all the commercials presented.

But slowly the kids found their way to Okto, a children channel in Singapore. Thankfully that happened after they are fully assured that no, they cannot behave like ones in commercials. And equally no, being on TV does not mean the toys or food can materialize at home. Whining or not.

So there... after the journey, glad to hear that children, too, get little nuggets of life wisdom from TV. :)

Great Expectation

Recently, when office was hectic and erratic (still is, until now) an home is equally demanding, I remembered my email to a best friend many years ago. In case it can also sooth others in similar situation, here it is:

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We're surrounded by others' expectation. Most often, our loved ones are the highest of them all. I think, this is because they have our best interest in hearts. As much as we would like to meet all of them, reaching a serene equilibrium is a tricky business.
Because... somehow meeting one's expectation means sacrificing other's. True?

And indeed expectation is a cruel thing. Sometimes we expect other illogically.
Especially our loved ones. To us, they are the greatest, close to superhero.
Among the loved ones, I think the kids has the biggest expectation from parents.
To any parents, their kids are their gods, capable of all sort of thing.

So there... One's life is started with expectation. When we were born, we're expected to scream our head off. Otherwise our devoted mommy will be worried. As we grow up, the expectation grows bigger as well. From teachers, friends, colleagues, neighbors, bosses, spouse, kids... It's not substitute, it's summation.

I guess... from our experience... this kind of thingy happen to anyone.

As closing, I have made peace with myself. I think, realizing a little bit too late, the greatest burden is my own expectation.
My fear of failure cause this all. I always tried to please everyone, such that putting myself in the unpleasant situation. I was too afraid of upsetting others.

After that acceptance, I felt better.

How about you?

Most importantly, please do remind me if I expect too much from my kids. And that we must not forget of His expectation. To walk on His path. Therefore, my dearest friend, no worry.
He'll make everything beautiful in His own time. Just walk on His, together with Him. :)

[It Works] Letterland

Long time ago, I was a little skeptical about Letterland. I thought of it as just another one of hyped-up-commercially-exploited creation.

However, we've been converted now.

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1. Catchy tunes. My 3 years old son has been humming the tunes for a few months now.
2. Fun fun fun stories. Even my daughter cannot stop reading the book.
3. Bright beautiful colorful characters, both in illustration and in their story roles.
4. Well developed method of phonics introduction, making it easier for children to remember. 5. We did zoo-phonics with our first one, and we're impressed by the more wholesome approach. From single sound introduction, to digraphs, to more as we've yet to explore.
6. Letterland has almost everything we can think of. Games, workbook, storybook, flashcards,... To make learning continuous and fun.
7. They are available everywhere, not exclusive from the school.

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1. Limited range of product in Singapore.
2. They don't provide free online games as other brands do nowadays.
3. Some stuffs are literally breathtakingly expensive.

Another one is minus for me, plus for my son. He can't stop doing the workbook. So one book was finished up pretty quickly. :)

Hosana Dental Clinic

About a year ago, I found recommendation from other mommies on the net on a good dental clinic for kids:

Hosana Dental Clinic
123 Lorong 1 Toa Payoh, Singapore 310123
Phone : 6258 8456

The oral therapist patiently explaining the functions of the equipments used during the treatment. And everything is not rushed or forced upon. As a result, both my kids feel really relaxed. No fear at all, including the most recent experience: extraction *shiver*

I also feel comfortable with the advises. No treatment was pushed down our throat. He advises, but decision is up to us. And... Approach is not radical, more towards letting nature chips in too.

Now, the clinic has been a family clinic, extended to some of my kids' friends. So far all are happy.

Well... Just in case someone out there need. :)

PS: they are also open on some nights and on Saturdays.

The Handbag Thingy

In Singapore, we see a lot of boyfriend-madly-in-love carrying the lucky girlfriend handbag. Size nor weight is not the decisive factor. I've seen macho guy carrying a dainty little bag. The lady graced his other arm. Both looked equally jolly and smug.

Recently, we're also stunned to see pics of helper carrying the big heavy military bag. The said bag belongs to a young chap, walking tall in front of her.

Of course, mommies or helper carrying kiddies bag are also familiar sights. For this, looking at the size of the bags, I think at the very least it'll be good for the children's back development. It's humongous.

But this tickled me.

Yesterday I saw a mommy walking without carrying anything! What a rare sight. Not even a small purse or Handphone. Behind her, coming into view, was her helper, Gucci bag and all...

Hmmm... :)

Tamiflu

My daughter and I walked out from the clinic. With a very puzzled look, the six year old asked me, "Mommy, I never mention of tummy ache, why did the doctor gave me tamiflu?".

Hmmm... I found it funny. Now as I'm typing this I'm not sure whether you do too.

Anyway, in that case I'll share our experience with tamiflu. Within hours, many well meaning friends warned me on the... I can't find an apt word for this. Maybe scary? They mentioned that reported side effect include serious hallucination, depression, deliriousness, etc.

I quickly google it. And true, many posts popped up. One lady even described it as five day of being mad. But a few mentioned too that the medicine is very effective.

Hubby and I decided to proceed. We believe that the do won't prescribe it if it's not safe.

So, none of the above encountered, many thanks to Him. But also no significant improvement observed.

Of course, being the wishy washy me, I still think that there might be bacterial infection, on top of the viral one. So it could've been worse without tamiflu.

Kindly note, this post was written with only an experience sharing objective. From a mommy to other mommies.

Kids Clinic @ Bishan

Darling daughter recently had nasty bout of high fever (for the first time, she exceeded 40degC). It lasted for 5 days. Friends and family were very supportive, lots of prayers for the poor girl.

A few also questioned the medicine. I know they only meant well. When the fever shot up, she looked very limp and weak, I myself wonder whether I'm doing the best for her. But amazingly I had this thought, that her doc surely has given the best possible treatment.

I came to realize how much I trusted her pediatrician, Dr Oh Meng Choo. She is thorough, even with very long queue outside, accurate, and kind.

The staff are great too. Helpful and friendly.

I am still impressed with thoughtful system implemented in the one pediatrician clinic. It works. Well, not perfectly, but they are indeed efficient.

Three nights in a week, they are open at night. Great help for working mothers!

So there... To all mommies who need a good doc:
Kids Clinic @ Bishan
Blk 116 Bishan St 12
#01-28 Singapore 570116

Tel: 63568909
Fax: 63569336

http://www.kidsclinicbishan.com/

PS: For a good doc, I'm willing to wait for an hour or two. So please be prepared. To me, result worth the wait.
PS2: I am also not fond of giving a lot, various, strong medicine. Dr Oh's prescription is normally simple, rarely antibiotic unless necessary.

PS3: She also does an excellent ear piercing for kids. First creamy local anesthesia is applied on the earlobes. Then the piercing is done in swift and comforting manner. Nice!